Your Emotional 401K pt2.

Are you investing in your Emotional 401k? – Healthy Relationships Part 2 This is Part 2 of several posts on Your Emotional 401k – Investing in Healthy Relationships. You can find Part 1 here.  In this post we will discuss what emotional currency is.Emotional currency is the “money” we use when we interact in the relationships we […]

Your Emotional 401K (pt. 1)

This blog was first posted by Nathan Hansen, LPC at and is used here with permission of the author.This is the first of a series of posts on managing and investing your emotional currency so you can have healthy relationships. When you are done reading these posts, I hope you have an idea of […]

Can’t Sleep?

As a therapist, I often hear that bedtime is one of the most anxious experiences of the day.  The distractions are all gone, your day is over, and its time for rest. Yet sleep can remain elusive because you are alone with your thoughts, and usually, they are not the pleasant ones.  Instead of sleep, […]

Make Love Your Language This Valentine’s Day

Every February, our attention to LOVE is hallmarked by Valentine’s Day. Advertisers prey on the tired narrative of inept husbands and boyfriends failing to adequately adorn their partners with reminders of their affection for them. Flowers, chocolates, PajamaGrams, and pre-written greeting cards become romantic currency. And couples everywhere seek to honor their relationships though intentional […]

Temptation Bundling

Have you heard of Temptation bundling?As a counselor, one of our primary roles is to help bring change in someone’s life. This is a great privilege— witnessing a client move from depression to hope, anxiety to peace, and from shame to acceptance.CHANGE can be difficult. As an attempt to avoid change, someone once said to […]

Take 12 to Remember the 525,600

In the midst of Christmas parties and New Year celebrations, we hope you are enjoying the holiday season. For some, this time of year is less of a party and more of a time of intense stress. Often, so much time over the holiday is spent running from one commitment to another, and not enough […]

3 Ways to “Ashley Madison Proof” Your Marriage

With the recent data dump from Ashley Madison, we have all been made aware there are a lot of people interested in taking their sexuality to extra marital relationships.  Ashley Madison provides an unprecedented level of ease and availability for individuals to express their sexuality with people other than their spouses. And, according to reports, […]

Living Well

“The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no recipe for living that suits all cases.”– Carl Jung, Modern Man in Search of a SoulWhat does it mean to “live well?”Does living well mean making lots of money, having a big family, being happy, helping others, staying out of trouble with the law, […]

What is Emotionally Focused Therapy?

What happens to love?  When we are dating, when relationships are young, there is so much energy and excitement.  Then something happens.  I heard it once described that men have an allergic reaction to metal on their finger!  A change occurs in the relationship and instead of that fun exciting love, there is this dullness […]

Finding Hope

Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come.”– Anne Lamont, Bird by BirdHope is one of the most vulnerable human experiences Vulnerable because having hope puts us at risk of being let down. For example, most spouses make vows to […]